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Valentines’ Day an Overrated Faux Holiday
May your God continue and bless you as you are reading this article. We are in the month of February which is the “Lover’s month”, if you are single Valentines’ day could work both ways as a blessing or as something you are dreading. I personally do not care about Valentine’s Day like I used to as a kid, or even in my early twenties. My perception of the day has changed because I’ve changed. I hear my male friends stressing how the day is overrated and I agree Valentine’s Day is a made up “holiday”.
As someone stated the day is another reason for women to request gifts; I laughed but in actuality it’s true. The commercials showing a man popping the question or the man buying that special gift, it’s a made for TV holiday. What makes February 14th special besides the hype behind the day? If the day has significant meaning to you and your spouse great; however it’s another day for me to receive free candy.
If you need to wait until February 14 to express your love, your relationship never “was” and I would end it save yourself the drama. If you research Valentine’s Day you would find many interesting facts, for example the modern day version of Valentine ’s Day started in the 1800’s in France and England.
The romanticism of the day is appealing for all of those who believe in an idealistic kind of love; however those loves only exist on movie screens and not in real life. When you are waiting for your fairytale love to sweep you off your feet because you saw a hallmark card commercial on the television screen; you need a reality check.
Am I bitter? I am coming off as such but I am not, I’m just expressing my belief. Love is beautiful, I am a firm believer and advocate for healthy relationships.
I am just not buying into the faux holiday anymore. Love has changed me and love has changed for me, romance is amazing when I receive it. Romance waters my secret garden, it takes me to places mentally, spiritually and physically more than the idea of what others project on me what my love should “be.” Create your own version of your hallmark card or your special holiday, why wait for a faux holiday to celebrate your love, an audience is not needed for real love and that’s Rashida Garner’s view.
Rashida Garner is a freelance journalist,a poet and a mother from the NY Area now living near Raleigh, NC.
She is the author of "In This S(k)in" a collection of poetry which will be re-released in 2009.
She also acts as a Self Esteem Expert for various websites concerning teenagers.
